One of the reasons I chose to create Chakrubs was because I was experiencing numbness in my vagina, especially with sexual partners.
I realized that this was because I had subconsciously learned to disassociate from my body during sex to cope with sexual trauma I had endured.
During this time, I also felt a deep desire to reconnect to my body and release all the energies of the past that had accumulated. Already being fascinated with crystals and their metaphysical properties, I envisioned the concept of relating to a crystal as a lover.
Crystals have been revered for centuries for their healing properties. They are believed to emit a consistent, stable, and subtle energy, something that we, as humans subject to emotional fluctuations, cannot maintain consistently. We are influenced by all sorts of things like environment, emotions, other people etc. This is where crystals step in - they provide a natural sense of safety and stability when introduced into our body’s energetic fields.
If we can tune into ourselves and become aware of the energy of a crystal, sexual pleasure becomes more intense, and sensation can be rekindled in areas like the vagina. This re-sensitization process is not only spiritual but also physical. Slowing down and tuning in allows our minds to make neural connections to the vaginal nerves, opening up new pathways to pleasure. This is supported by scientific studies showing that mindfulness and focused attention can increase sensitivity and neural connections.
The Emotional Connection
Chakrubs also work to increase pleasurable sensitivity by addressing the underlying emotional factor that may be causing internal numbness. Many of us have never felt truly safe with a sexual partner. Working with a Chakrub allows you the gentleness, space, and patience to build that sense of safety.
Emotionally-rooted numbness often reflects as a lack of energy flow within the vaginal tissues. This is where the energy properties of the crystals used in Chakrubs come into play. They can facilitate both that physical and energetic movement, helping to increase sensitivity.
Increasing Sensitivity with a Chakrub
After connecting to your Chakrub and bonding with its energy, you can begin a yoni massage practice. "Yoni" is a Sanskrit term often used to refer to the entire female reproductive system. Regular practice, at least once a week, will increase sensation.
A Chakrubs Practice for Vaginal Numbness:
Start by journaling: Ask questions like, “How have I benefited from experiencing numbness in my vagina?” This introspective practice aims to help you recognize that you are your own master, that on some level you are doing exactly what you are meant to do. This was my personal realization - I had to experience numbness to spark a desire for more feeling, leading me on my path of self-discovery.
Begin your practice: Bring your Chakrub into your lap. Close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. Make a simple suggestion to yourself that you will tune into the energy of the crystal.
Connect with the crystal: After a few moments, move your Chakrub over to your heart. Breathe in and visualize the crystal and your heart glowing in warm, golden light.
External Massage: Start with the external, massaging the outer lips of the vagina.
Internal Massage: Move to the inside lips, rub the Chakrub around the inner labia and clitoral hood. Massage the opening. As you warm up, move to the inside of the vagina. Press the Chakrub in different areas, with awareness on which areas feel tender, if any areas bring discomfort, where you experience pleasure. This type of massage will increase blood flow and help dissipate any trapped energy.
Reflect: Take note of any new sensations that arise. Do you feel tingles? Do you feel tension? Do you have any visions that come to mind? Honor anything that comes up for you.
Closing: Take the Chakrub and bring it back to your heart. Give gratitude for yourself and your crystal for creating space for healing.
Journal: Write down what you experienced. Any thoughts, sensations, worries, visions, or ideas. At the end of the week, review this and see what you have revealed.
Commit to this practice for seven days. It can last anywhere from 10-45 minutes, depending on how much time you have.
*Always practice good hygiene and wash your Chakrub with warm water and neutral soap after each use. Regularly cleanse the crystal energetically as well, through techniques such as smudging or moonlight cleansing.
*You may wish to listen to a guided meditation during this practice. If you are feeling ready to do some powerful, energetic releasing, we recommend The Chakrubs Cord-cutting Ceremony Workshop.
*Practicing with a yoni egg alongside this practice will enhance results.
Remember, it's always essential to listen to your body and go at a pace that feels right for you. It's perfectly okay to stop at any time if something feels uncomfortable. For those who might feel skeptical, remember that this practice is as much about mindful connection with your body as it is about the crystals. And for some, the combination of both can lead to profound results.
Vanessa Cuccia is the founder and creator of Chakrubs, The Original Crystal Sex Toy Company, and author of Crystal Healing & Sacred Pleasure. She is regarded as a pioneer in the sex toy industry for introducing her methods of using crystals for sexual healing and empowerment on a global scale. As a certified crystal healer and reiki practitioner, she continues to pursue knowledge of crystals and metaphysical modes of healing to help those who have experienced sexual trauma or simply wish to deepen pleasure and connection to self, spirit, and others.