Sex, Masturbation, & Manifestation
Manifestation is a hot topic in the spiritual community right now. The idea that we, as humans, can assist the universe in the process of it giving us what we ask for is exhilarating. With the increasing amount of chaos in the world, the idea of being able to co-create with the universe to directly ask for peace of mind, a hot sex life, or whatever else we desire feels empowering and important — but how do we do it?
In recent years, “positive thinking” affirmations and abundance rituals with oil-infused candles and flower petals that claim to fast-track the delivery of the things we ask for have become incredibly popular. But, what if I told you that your most direct and efficient manifestation tool was your orgasm?
Often, when the practice of manifestation is discussed, there is a lot of talk about “energy” and getting into “energetic alignment” with the things you want. This is because many spiritual practitioners abide by the “Law of Attraction,” the idea that like attracts like, and thus “good” energy will attract more “good” energy, “good” thoughts will attract “good” things, and so on.
Different versions of this New Age thought propose that “feeling good is feeling god” (Wayne Dyer) and that it’s not just about thinking better thoughts and trying to master our energetic state, but how we feel, and specifically our ability to feel good, is what attracts things to us.
Sex magic takes this whole idea a step further.
There are very few, if any, things in this world that bring human beings to a more elevated and blissful state than sexual climax. As the energy of release surges through our bodies, we connect to something that is otherwise elusive in our daily lives. We realign to a part of ourselves (or a part of something larger) in that moment that brings us a kind of out-of-body and yet fully embodied experience all at the same time.
The foundation of manifestation is creative energy. If sexual energy can create life, it can create anything.
If manifestation of beautiful and abundant things comes from beautiful and abundant energy, then the bliss-point of orgasm is the perfect precipice to manifest from. All that is required to harness the energy of the sexual surge and direct it towards the creation of the things you desire, is to hold whatever it is you want as clearly and intimately in your mind as you can during your favorite parts of your pleasure practice.
For example: if you want a new house, envision the specifics of the light bouncing off of the floors, or how it would feel to take a bath in the clawfoot bathtub, as you experience the height of your pleasure. If it’s money you want, think of a specific number and envision opening your bank account and seeing that number in the “available balance” section of your account. This could be right as you orgasm (usually most effective), or could just be a particularly pleasurable moment in your session.
The more vivid and yummy the vision, the better.
How crystals can help:
Crystals can both store and generate energy (which is why it is often advised to “clear” the stones that you use most). This is why we use them to clear, cleanse, and charge the energy of spaces, as well as realign the energy centers in our body called chakras.
The addition of a crystal tool, such as a Chakrub, to the practice of sex magic offers a way to store the potent sexual energy that is released during your pleasure practice. It also means that you can select your crystal sex toys depending on their properties to help you in your manifestations.
Some other ways to enhance the practice are to sit with your Chakrub over your heart and say aloud the intention you have before you start your play, to host your Chakrub on a charged altar, and/or to meditate right after climax with your Chakrub on your chest or waist while you continue to marinate in your visions and repeat your favorite affirmations with the now-charged crystal as your accomplice.
The Heart Chakrub is made of 100% rose quartz, a stone associated with love, luxury, beauty, and softness. This is the chosen-Chakrub for inviting all things love and softness into your life (think hot dates, loving relationships, and the kind of vulnerability you’ve been looking for), as well as financial flow.
The orange glow of the Sacral Chakrub is the perfect energy for manifesting levity, confidence, and creativity. Want to conjure up a book deal, a proposal for a new creative project, or finally think of an idea for a new painting? This is your stone.
An incredibly spiritual stone, the Amethyst Chakrub can help you connect to spiritual and emotional guidance from your angels, spirit guides, or simply your highest self. Reach for The Amethyst when you’re needing spiritual clarity on which path to take and when you’re feeling shaky on your “higher purpose.”
It’s not just the wands that can help to enhance your manifestation magic. Insert a yoni egg or root plug while meditating on what you want, or during sexual stimulation for the same storing and generating effects.
The key to using sexual pleasure to manifest is to have fun with it! Not every sexual encounter is the right space for implementing these practices and that’s OK. Use this knowledge as an opportunity to get more present during sex (with yourself and others) and to notice what kinds of stimulation, and what kinds of people and environments, make you feel most excited and comfortable in your body and sexuality. When the moment is right to slip in a little vivid-visioning of that space, person, or thing that you want, you’ll know. Think of manifestation as a bonus to your sexual life rather than making it part of routine or necessity.
The only moral of this story is that your pleasure matters. Focus on leaning into pleasure more intentionally and the possibilities of what could come into your life as a result are endless.
Feature Image by Eva Zar
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