This is an excellent question and one that comes up often. Because black obsidian is known for releasing negative emotional implants and trauma, this is one that is highly recommended for those who are wanting to go through deep emotional cleansing.
However, there are some cases when obsidian can be a little too intense, as it can bring forward repressed memories, some of which can be difficult so face.
Depending on your current situation, how much time you have to dedicate to this healing, and how much support you have, it may be best to start with something that is a little more gentle. Please be mindful that crystals cannot take the place of traditional methods of therapy. These serve as added support systems and their benefits are anecdotal.
My Personal Healing Journey with the Xaga Chakrub
I started my journey with the Xaga Chakrub and it revealed many things in terms of repressed sexual fantasies, sexual trauma I didn’t realize I had endured, and how I dealt with anger. At the time I was unable to express anger and would turn those emotions inward. In order to work through this, I spent a year yelling whenever I felt angry. This method felt in conflict with what I was learning about compassionate communication, but I realized that I needed to be okay with anger in order to love myself more fully.
If you are someone who has had very traumatic experiences, rose quartz, The Heart Chakrub may be the best choice. It is a comforting stone, one that connects the upper and lower chakras. It soothes the heart and brings your energy level to a place that is a vibrational match for love.
Rose Quartz: The Stone of Universal Love
Rose quartz is often referred to as the "Stone of Universal Love." This pink-hued crystal is celebrated for its properties that foster love, peace, and emotional healing. Its energy is gentle yet powerful, radiating a sense of warmth and compassion, soothing the user's emotional state, and promoting feelings of self-love.
Bridging the Chakra Gap
The healing abilities of rose quartz go beyond just emotional comfort; it also aids in balancing the energy centers or 'chakras' of the body. Traditionally, it is associated with the heart chakra, the center of emotional well-being and love, but its influence extends beyond that.
Rose quartz serves as a bridge between the upper and lower chakras, harmonizing and balancing the entire energy system. By aligning the lower chakras—root, sacral, and solar plexus—with the upper ones—throat, third eye, and crown—the Heart Chakrub facilitates a steady and harmonious flow of energy throughout the body.
Harmonizing Vibrations with Love
Rose quartz's healing energy resonates with the frequency of love. This means that it has a natural ability to attune your emotional vibrations to that of love, fostering a deep sense of inner peace and well-being. By working with the Heart Chakrub, you will begin to nurture a more loving relationship with yourself, healing past traumas, and cultivating self-compassion.
The Safe Haven of Rose Quartz
Choosing to begin your healing journey with rose quartz can provide a nurturing, safe space for individuals who find the prospect of confronting deeply ingrained emotional traumas too intense initially. It allows for a gradual exploration of the self, fostering acceptance and love in place of fear and anxiety. Over time, as emotional resilience strengthens, you may feel prepared to journey deeper into self-discovery and emotional detoxification, possibly with the aid of more potent crystals like obsidian.
Harmonizing Obsidian and Rose Quartz
Alternatively, you may wish to work with the obsidian Xaga Chakrub, while keeping a piece of rose quartz or your Heart Chakrub nearby. Release with the Xaga, then replenish with the Heart.
The most important thing is to honor your personal process, no matter how long it takes. Recognize that by taking these steps you have put yourself on the path of healing, so you can never go back to where you once were. Even when you run into some bad luck or situation, you will be greeting it from a new perspective, one that lends itself to your well-being, because now you experience it with your healing sensibility and awareness.
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